Mundane Bullpoop

There are so many of these, you know what I mean, those annoying one-liners that wise-asses spout at you when what you really need is some down-home-cooked advice, and not useless CRAP that doesn't mean shite.

My favorites:

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

Actually...
When your cancer goes into remission it doesn't make you stronger, it makes you AFRAID.
When you lose your family it makes you ALONE.
When you get shot at you lose your NERVE (cells, as in all along your spine for example, which leaves you in a wheel chair).


"Happiness is a journey not a destination."

If happiness were a journey it would be an action verb.


"If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem."

Next time you quote that be aware that the phrase was coined by the IRA.


"No news is good news!"

Say you lose your dog and no one calls for hours despite its being too fugly to steal and it's wearing it's dog tags and implanted microchip. That usually means it's been hit by a car and no one's gonna man up to that.


"Time heals all wounds."

It doesn't.


"I've found God!"

According to the literature, God's not the one who was lost...!

Yeah, that.

Right Now

Everything I am, everything I have done, has led me here. Is that a good thing? I know not (Yoda anyone??).

I'm confused... but happy. Except I'm not.

But I am.

Now all I need is the energy to get up...

WTF?

Current mood: confused

What is it about us humans that makes it so difficult to give reassurance to an insecure loved one? We're not that way with our best friends, we have patience and provide support freely and generously (hopefully anyways, otherwise there's something seriously wrong with the friendship ... love you Cookie!!). But when it comes to family or partners we get defensive whenever they are needy. Why is that?

Shouldn't the obvious insecurity and fear of a loved one in need make us feel protective and concerned instead of attacked? Doesn't it mean they are hurting, even if it's irrational? I know that when I get needy all I want is a hug and a reassuring sentence or two telling me I'm being silly and of course they love me and think I'm valuable. Duh.

It should be so simple... so why can't we repeat our feelings for someone over and over again as needed? We'd like the same from them, wouldn't we? Everyone feels misunderstood and alone in this big scary world sometimes so what's the big f***ing deal - a loved one in need isn't trying to claim we're not doing enough for them, they're just having a bad lonely day, it happens.

So yeah.. I don't understand... a person who's crying makes me feel immense empathy and want to fix things for them. Meanwhile many of us are turned off by someone we should know inside and out when they're crying. Is it because it makes us feel incompetent or inadequate? Is it fear of responsibility? Fugged if I know, but it seems like an unadult way to face neurotic behavior; if your counterpart is being irrational the least you can do for them is step up to the plate and tell them honestly what you think and feel at that moment. Grow a f***ing backbone, you love them after all... or is is just a meaningless four-letter word at the end of the day?

Why must we all victimize ourselves before considering others? The needy loved one is doing that as much as the defensive responder... it makes no f***ing sense for either of them, so why? Survival of the species would imply that we do things that aren't self-destructive and hurtful to the ones we depend on and are in some form of family relationship with. How the hell else can we protect each other?

Anyways... if we could all just get over ourselves and be f***ing NICE to each other the world would be a happier place. What's wrong with that??

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Irks Some

You know what really irks me? The fact that clueless people think personality disorders or mental illness or emotional crisis or whatever the eff we're calling it these days (I really don't care anymore btw, which is good I think, it means I've taken a step towards accepting sh!t for what it is instead of force-feeding the world all my regurgitated non-sense (and yes, that misspelling is purpose)) ... the fact that people think sufferers of psychological disorders or problems or pain are somehow less competent or intelligent than the rest of the planet.

Did you know that the underlying slogan/motto for psychiatry is that EVERYONE is fucked up, but that it's only a problem if you suffer from it?

So what does that tell you? LOL who knows, but I know what it tells ME: That people who are aware of how fucked up they are have one over on those that don't. Because they have a chance to become the small portion of society which can coexist peacefully and agreeably in some strange state of cross-human inter-planetary zenishness.

My other point would be that folks suffering from head related non-health average higher IQs than the rest of the population. How is that possible? Well duh, cause as soon as emotions are involved rational intelligence kicks out and whatever's behind door number 2 kicks in.



**hang on a sec, I gottsta pull slimey slobbery pieces of rawhide out of my dogs throat... greedy little b!tch, lol, girl after my own heart :·D**



Anyways, this is why even psychiatrists with the highest success rates (= patient turnover??) may still not be able to communicate with their teenagers or may be in the throws of divorce (wtf does "in the throws of" mean anyways??? ... time to look up language evolution again w00t, i love this stuff :·D)

Right, so eat my words suckers, if you don't have some form of psychological problem you're dumb as dirt. So f***ing there.